There’s a man sitting at a bar on New Year’s Eve, just staring at his drink for half an hour.
Then, a big trouble-making hell’s angel biker steps next to him, takes the drink from the guy, and slams it, pounding the empty glass on the bar.
The poor man starts crying…The biker says, “Come on man, I was just joking. Here, I’ll buy you another drink. I just can’t stand seeing a man crying.” “No, it’s not that. This day is the worst of my life.
First, I fall asleep, and I’m late to my office. My boss, in an outrage, fires me. When I leave the building to my car, I found out it was stolen. The police say they can do nothing. I get a cab to return home and when I leave it, I remember I left my wallet and credit cards there. The cab driver just drives away.
I go home and when I get there, I find my wife messing around with the gardener. I leave home and come to this bar. And when I was thinking about putting an end to my life, you show up and drink my poison.”
Well another New Year is upon us, the time of year when many of us conduct annual rituals that may include everything from strategic planning sessions for business to making personal New Year’s resolutions or setting Bold Goals for 2015 and beyond.
I have found over the years that any such process to be much harder to do when I haven’t completed or let go of the past. I believe it’s very difficult (nearly impossible) to really move forward a start something new when we are carting the past along with us. The process of letting go can include changing your attitude and perceptions about what the 2014 year did to you, to digging very deep and letting go of some of the childhood stuff that has shaped your life for years.
On the fun end of the spectrum, here is a very practical thing you can do- get out a clean sheet of paper and write one question on it – “What did I start and not complete?” Think about it for several hours, think back to each month of the year and write them down. Then at midnight, take that list and symbolically burn it! (It feels great).
I realize that for many folks the New Year can include a lot of upset; ranging from anxiety around gift giving and hectic schedules to painful remembrances of lost loved ones or unhappy childhood experiences. All of these emotions can block us from accomplishing our goals.
Transition/transformation is a lot of work! If you are intending to be powerful in 2015, have big goals, and produce great results, I highly recommend you spend the next couple of days completing and letting go of 2014, in order to create fertile ground for your 2015 vision to come alive.
Wishing you a happy ending to your 2014 and a fabulous 2015!