A man had been visiting a therapist because he had a very real fear of monsters living under his bed. The man had been seeing this doctor every week for several years. Every week he would come in and the doctor would ask “have you made any progress?” Every time the man would say “no”. Finally the man’s wife persuaded him to go and see another doctor. When he went back to the original doctor and again he asked “have you made any progress?” he said “yes, I am feeling all better now”. The doctor asked what happened. The man said “I went to another doctor and he cured me in one session”. The doctor asked “What did he tell you?” The man said “he just told me to cut the legs off of my bed”.
Fear is a very irrational emotion. It was Jerry Seinfeld that said “According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you’re better off in the casket than doing the eulogy.”
I think the way the human mind processes the fear of failure is completely backwards. We are trained at an early age to panic at the thought of failure. It starts at a very young age. As children we are taught to strive for success and that falling short isn’t acceptable; non-success is quickly associated with punishment as a bad grade is given in school or a starting position in sports is given to the better player.
I’ve seen it first hand in coaching little league baseball – kids that are completely defeated by fear and the mere prospect of failure. To many people, failure becomes a mental shortcut they create early on—representing an end-state of humiliation, shame, pain etc. When we put logic ahead of fear it does not have to be this way. This outlook on the fear of failing is completely backwards: Failure can be one of our most powerful tools, pushing us to do great things.
As we continue to build Tama County’s economy, there are going to be mistakes made…..I guarantee that! The biggest mistake any one of us can make is doing nothing because our fears are so big that they paralyze us from taking action. So my advice; don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself. In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing will NEVER work.
You have the opportunity to come see some Tama County residents that have overcome their fears on Tuesday, April 26th from 5:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. at the Reinig Center in Toledo, the site of the Q2 2016 Pitch & Build. All Tama County residents are STRONGLY encouraged to support these entrepreneurs by contacting our office at: firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling 641-484-3108 to RSVP your attendance with Joanne.
Let’s go cut the legs off of our beds and go build something.